Everyone has the freedom of thinking and leading his life in his own way. If we talk from an Islamic perspective, Islam allows you to lead your life according to your wishes and desires, but within certain limits. Those limits are the teachings of Islam.
There are so many articles which are written on the Islamic teachings. Recently, a British Muslim writer shared her personal story in an article in which she mentioned different teachings of Islam. Before moving forward, I want to give you a brief introduction about that writer “Irna Qureshi”. Irna is basically an anthropologist by profession and also a writer. She lives in Bradford with her mother. She is a Muslim who got divorced from her husband after few years of marriage. Her article “In a generation, everything has changed for British Muslim women” is a piece of Islamic article in which she has shared the freedom rights of women. How a woman can lead her life, if his husband divorced to her?
Now let me tell you the whole story she has shared in her article. In the beginning of the article, she said that the old generations take divorce as an immoral thing. They feel bad and embarrassed if someone called them divorcee. As you know that Islam doesn’t admire divorce, but it still gives the right to both genders to get a divorce, if they are unhappy with their marriage. It was stated in hadith that divorce is not a favourable act in the eyes of Islam as follows:
Ibn ‘Umar reported, The Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said:
“With Allah, the most detestable of all things permitted is divorce.”
Let’s get back to Irna’s article, she said that old people think that being divorced is shameful, but according to the new generation -like her - it is one of the women rights whenever she wants to live with full relaxation and comfort away from her husband. The old concept of divorce is now changing among the British Muslims because they now believe that divorce is a right that is given by Allah Almighty.
Now the story begins, Irna’s mother got married to a man who was originally from Pakistan. After having three children, her father decided to visit Pakistan alone. After sometime from his visit to Pakistan, Irna’s mother received a letter by post in which there was a divorce document. Her mother was totally shocked because she didn’t know the reason of her divorce. Irna stated that her mother didn’t ask her father a single word and she didn’t know why her father divorced her. Anyways, her mother belongs to the old generation. After getting divorce. she was very quiet and even didn’t tell anyone about her divorce because she thought that everyone would make fun of it.
In addition, she said in her article that, people always try to pick out such things in others which don’t belong to them. Just take the example. If a girl doesn’t easily adjust with her in-laws and demand for a separate house or etc, people will think that the girl must have some bad habits, and she doesn’t want to reveal it to others which is totally unfair.
She added that after a long time, her mother maintained again her situation in the society. She was a teacher before her marriage, in Pakistan. She has that much skill through which she brought their children up. It is incredible because it is very difficult for women to fulfill the requirements of their children easily. Still she was a bit sad about being divorced because she took it as an ultimate curse. Besides this, Irna’s mother knew that there were some historical backgrounds of divorce. Many women in Islam were divorced for some circumstances.
She further added in her content, that there is some proper way of getting divorced. You have to apply in a court for divorce or you can ask your husband peacefully. Irna said that, unlike her mother, she went through divorce because she was not happy with her marriage. Now, she can lead her life without the interruption of anyone.
At the end, she concluded that awareness is spreading among people. The thoughts of Muslim women about divorce were changed. If a marriage of a woman breaks down, no one blames the woman for it. The purpose of her article was to spread awareness among those women who take divorce as a social curse and destroy their lives in grief. You should show some courage for yourself and for your family that you can do anything without the support of man.
At the end, when I was reading Irna’s article, one thing she said that should be highlighted; there are some matrimonial website on the internet which provide a platform to the divorce for dating. I highly condemn it, because Islam never allowed any women to do such acts after divorce. She should keep herself in the limits prescribed by Islam.
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