Islam sets the course of a married life for both husband and wife. In Quran many ayaat, as well as many hadith, prescribe equity, kindness, consideration, love, sympathy, goodwill and patience. A husband is responsible for the leadership of his family. A man must be held responsible to the duties according to his capacity. Man as a husband is held responsible for basic duties like generosity, sincerity, respect, love, care, compassion, protection, privacy, keep promise, and keep patience towards his family.
A Hadith narrated by Aisha the prophet’s wife:
Allah’s Messenger (saws) said, “The best of you is he who is best to his family, and I am the best among you to my family.”
In our society man has the authority in certain matters, only because he is the head of the family. Authority without responsibility leads to ghastly and unpleasant ends. So he must have at least some basic leadership qualities; e.g.: decision making, direction taking, risk taking, planning and sense of timing. A husband is responsible to protect her wife’s honor and should not to place her in situations where it is compromised or belittled. Man should not only provide his wife with necessities and facilities but also be well mannered and good to her. Men are directed not to treat their wives harshly.
Allah says:
“Someone who is well off should spend from his fortune, and whoever is poor should spend from what Allah gives him.”
A Hadith narrated by AbuBakr as-Siddiq:
The Prophet (saws) said, “One who treats badly those under his authority will not enter Paradise.”
The husband should not keep his wife in a state of suspense or to stay away from his wife. He must attempt with sincerity to gain her trust, and always seek her welfare. Protracted separation around 6 months or more without prior arrangement no matter the reason is sufficient for a wife to obtain a divorce from the court.
It is hereby clarified that no one is superior or inferior in a relationship; it is the distribution of qualities and responsibilities. In some aspects, men are better and in others women leads e.g. according to a psychological research men are better at orienting objects and speaks logic; women are better at communicating and emotionS. Both gIve different reactions to stress, and they process information at different rates in different situations. Allah clearly states: -
“The nobler among you in the sight of God is the more righteous among you.” (49:13)
In order to maintain prosperity and peace in a married life, both should take care of each other. They should have to respect each other’s emotions, sentiments and must never disclose the secrets of the household. They should be patient, kind hearted, caring and forgiving. Both halves should be co-operative and supportive to each other and can convince the other if he/she do mistakes.
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