The different roles and duties that the husband and wife should fulfill are clearly explained in Islam. In Islam, marriage is considered to be an important bond, between two people, that involves equal love, partnership, faithfulness, and love. There are several guidelines that Muslim married couples should follow and this ensures that their marriage will be successful, such as:-

Both, Muslim men and women, in a marriage have a role that they should fulfill. For example, the husband should be the breadwinner as he has more physical strength while the woman is responsible for bearing and raising children. She is also responsible for maintaining her home by ensuring that all the needs of her husband and children are fulfilled. For example, the husband should not come back after a long and exhausting day at work to find the home not clean, or no food to eat. On the other hand, the husband should try as much as possible to provide his wife and children with everything they need. This of course depends on his physical and financial strength. The wife should also try as much as possible not to financially burden her husband if he is doing everything he can, to provide them with their needs.

One partner should be in charge of the marriage. This is an aspect that many people don’t understand. In no way this means that one side should dominate the marriage. Keep in mind that in Islam, the husband is not allowed to abuse his wife sexually, physically, or psychologically. This simply means that one side, for example, should be responsible of the financial matters to avoid any confusion.

Mutual respect is required in every marriage, and this applies for both sides. Both of them should support each other and protect their children. This involves not sharing the secrets between them with anyone else. This also includes not saying anything hurtful to each other.

In case of children, the husband and wife together should spend time with their children. They should do everything to treat their children with love and avoid hurting them emotionally or physically. It is also recommended teaching children about Islam when they reach an age of understanding. The husband should also take his sons to the mosque when they grow up. For example, the husband should start by taking his sons to the mosque every Friday for the prayer until they reach an age where they are able to go alone. This is very important as children should be introduced to their religion as early as possible.

Prophet Muhammad was extremely concerned with the welfare and the well-being of women. He always advised followers to treat women with respect and kindness. This is very important to comprehend as many people have the misconception that Muslim women have no rights. You will be surprised when you find out that Muslim women are just like everyone else where they go to work, raise their children, love their husbands, and also spend time with their friends.

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The scene of marriage in Islam in the mind of a non-Muslim fellow is usually as follows: A young Muslim girl, who is crying her heart out, is being suddenly and forcefully declared a wife to an old man who is so BIG, so UGLY, and so RICH. Her parents take a wealthy sum of money and the girl becomes Mr. Grand pa’s own property.

While cases like this one happens in extremely rare occasions, we definitely cannot say that this is the norm in Muslim Marriage. Simply enough, women in Islam are not forced to get married to someone they do not like, so the “crying” factor here is rejected by all means in Islam. That is, unless the bride is happy, she has the right to say no. The proof is when Prophet Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him) consented to the divorce of a wife who did not like her husband, and please note the word “like” here.

Latest statistics have shown that cases of Muslim girls who get married under the age of 16 are about 10%. It means that this is not the ordinary age women in Islam get married at. It, too, indicates that these girls could be 15, or 14 and not necessarily 9 or 10. Naturally, all these girls have reached their puberty, so they are marriageable and marriage will not deprive them of their childhood.

Mercifully, Islam does not specify a certain age for men or women to get married at. I will tell you why this is considered optimal mercy: firstly, because people are different, so, not all of them reach adolescence at the same age. If a girl at the age of 13 or 14, who has already reached maturity, and wants to get married while Islam only allows marriage at the age of 16, then she would be oppressed. Recklessly, she could resort to illegal affairs which leads to endless problems, such as an early pregnancy, psychological troubles and more importantly, disobeying God. Unfortunately, this problem is somewhat popular in the USA for example. Although, there, it is considered shocking, some young people commit this mistake as marriage at young age is not encouraged.

So, Islam has endowed us with the liberty of getting married at the age we see as proper according to the physical and societal circumstances, be it 10 or even 50! What is sure here is that this liberty protects young people from illegal affairs, helps them to be self-dependent, while at the same time protects society from moral deprivation and parentless children.

Sometimes marriage in Islam can be misunderstood by many non-Muslims. We find them depicting young Muslim girls as being forced to marry someone so BIG, so Ugly, and so RICH in exchange of a wealthy sum of money to the parents.

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